Lessons on marriage from the movie Frozen

Jill Uncategorized 12 Comments

 A few minutes into the movie Frozen, Prince Hans proposes to Anna even though they’ve just met. My husband leaned toward me and whispered, “that was fast.”

My thoughts exactly. We don’t find out until later that Prince Hans is the bad guy, but I think most of us felt that check in our gut telling us something wasn’t right.

Next, Anna meets Kristoff. When they get into trouble and their sleigh is about to go over a cliff, Kristoff cuts the rope and tosses Anna to safety. That was the moment I knew he was the one.

The other day my friend mentioned the importance of teaching our daughters to look for certain qualities in their future husbands. NOT JUST THE LABEL OF CHRISTIAN. I want my daughter to know that finding a Christian spouse is of utmost importance, but that there’s more too.

Does he attend church with a joyful heart or a dutiful one? Is he quick to forgive or does he hold a grudge? How does he treat his friends, his sister, his mother? These are conversations I can have right now, in the everyday with my kids.

After watching Frozen, I talked to my daughter about that moment when Kristoff puts Anna’s safety above his own. We also talked about the beginning, when Prince Hans proposes so quickly. We spoke about taking the time to get to know someone and not making hasty decisions, about how to spot important qualities in the people around us.

My daughter wrinkled her nose at the subject of boys, but she did participate. While she didn’t say much, I know she heard. It’s not going to be the last time I use the ordinary to bring up the subject of a future spouse.

And for all of the moms out there harboring a secret cartoon-crush on Kristoff, you now have the perfect excuse to watch the movie with your kids one more time.

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  1. Amber Perry

    Jill!!! Seriously, love this. It’s so important to talk to our kids about the things that matter most. Awesome post! And yes Kristoff is awesome. May I request another fabulous post featuring Flynn of Rapunzel fame?! (LOL since writing the last I learned that both Flynn and Rapunzel are IN Frozen for a split second, did you know that…?) OK, I digress. Great work, thanks for sharing. :)

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      JillButeyn

      I did not know that Flynn and Rapunzel are in Frozen!! I need to watch it again. 😉 I love Flynn. He’s my favorite Disney hero. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!

  2. Janette Foreman

    Great job, Jill! It’s those everyday moments that really capture kids’ attention. Wise words! And I second Amber’s request. I’d also love to see a post about Dmitri and Anastasia. :) But seriously, way to go!

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  3. Jeanne Takenaka

    So well stated, Jill. You bring up good points. Of course, those of us who mother boys need to be sharing similar messages with them about future spouses. :) I love how you used a movie to bring home such an important point. Now, to figure out what movie I can share with my boys….. :)

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      JillButeyn

      I thought the same thing about my son! He’s younger, so I’m not sure he’s ready yet. If you think of any, please share!

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      JillButeyn

      Hope I didn’t ruin it for you! I should have put a disclaimer on the top that the post contained spoilers. Enjoy the movie. It’s a fun one :)

  4. shawn

    GREAT comments. I agree. talk to your children early in life about the important qualities in their future mate. Instill in them the godly characteriscs they should pray and seek when dating.

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  5. Optional? I thought it was Jennifer

    Love this!!!!

    I can imagine Miss Cutie Patootie scrunching up her nose. She is going to be NO nonsense, if she’s anything like her Auntie Jennifer. Oh, and her mom.

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